Thursday, August 18, 2011

Can he pray for a kaafir woman to be guided to Islam so that he can marry her?


Suppose you see a beautiful woman on the road and you and to marry her. But she is a kaafir. Therefore marriage is not allowed. My question is: Is it allowed to ask Allah to guide her to Islam and then marry her later?.

Praise be to Allaah.

Before answering the
question, we should say that the Muslim is enjoined to lower his gaze and
avoid looking at that which Allaah has forbidden. Allaah says
(interpretation of the meaning): 

“Tell the believing men
to lower their gaze (from looking at forbidden things), and protect their
private parts (from illegal sexual acts). That is purer for them. Verily,
Allaah is All‑Aware of what they do”

[al-Noor 24:30]. 

There is great divine
wisdom behind this injunction, for Allaah is Most Merciful and Kind towards
His slaves, so His laws relieve them of hardship and difficulty and the
causes of mental and physical torment. It is well known that the eye is the
messenger of the heart , so if he allows himself to look at beautiful
images, his heart will become attached to these images, and these images
will reside in his heart, then in most cases he will not be able to get what
he wants so he will feel anguish.  

Therefore Islam blocks the
way to this suffering, by enjoining us to lower the gaze. So the Muslim has
to follow this command in order to please his Lord and for his own peace of

What you have referred to
in your question is correct – that if a person likes something and desires
it, then he has to prevent himself from attaining it in any way but that
which Allaah has permitted, and he should make his desires in accordance
with what the Messenger of Allaah (S) brought. This is the characteristic of
the believer. 

With regard to your
question, the answer is that it is permissible to pray for a kaafir to be
guided as is indicated in the saheeh ahaadeeth. It is proven that the
Prophet (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) prayed for the
tribe of Daws to be guided, and he said: “O Allaah, guide Daws.” Narrated by
al-Bukhaari (2937) and Muslim 92524). 

Al-Tirmidhi (5/82) narrated
that Abu Moosa (may Allaah be pleased with him) said: The Jews used to
sneeze in the presence of the Messenger of Allaah (peace and blessings
of Allaah be upon him), hoping that he would say “May Allaah have mercy on
you” to them. But he said: “May Allaah guide you and set your affairs
straight.” Classed as saheeh by al-Albaani in Saheeh al-Tirmidhi. 

Al-Haafiz Ibn Hajar
al-‘Asqallaani (may Allaah have mercy on him) said in Fath al-Baari
(10/604): The hadeeth of Abu Moosa indicates that they are included in the
general command to pray for one who sneezes, but there is a special prayer
for them, which is praying that they be guided and their affairs set
straight, and there is nothing wrong with praying for them in that manner.
End quote.  

The great scholar Ibn
Muflih al-Hanbali (may Allaah have mercy on him) said in al-Adaab
al-Shar’iyyah (1/368), speaking about what is and is not permissible to
say when praying for a kaafir: As for praying for him to be guided and so
on, this is clearly permissible. End quote. 

The one who prays for him
should have a good intention when saying this du’aa’, which is to attain the
pleasure of Allaah by bringing this woman to Islam and saving her from the
punishment of Allaah, and other such good intentions. There is nothing wrong
with also intending to marry her.  

And Allaah knows best.


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